Dom with Pen

Desperation

It’s your desperation I crave. I enjoy making you cum—but only when the climax awakens a desire more potent than what it quenched. I will take you to new heights each time, until at last you realize you don’t know where the top is.

That’s the moment when you realize your body has betrayed you and become entirely my possession.

Your mind is next.

Then your spirit.

This is what I mean by ownership; it is not some sex game. It begins with consent, but eventually transcends it.

You become my possession.

• 18 Jun 2013
• 116

miss-rainbow-cupcake asked: Did you change your theme or am I going mental?

I’m afraid you’re going mental.

• 18 Jun 2013
• 8

submissivedreamer asked: How did tumblr affect your marriage?

Well I knew plenty about the mechanics of BDSM—the sex part of our marriage has always been that way—but until tumblr, I wasn’t aware that some of the secret thoughts and desires I had were fairly common in the lifestyle. That the level of control I found erotic was not, how you say in English, pathological?

I was also surprised to find out there were submissives out there who actually craved this kind of control. But the really liberating thing was finding submissives who NOW craved this kind of control—but not until it had been introduced to them by a dominant partner years ago. Submissives who said, “Oh haaayyulll naw. I ain’t havin’ that.” And then, after their first restrained spanking, were all like, “Holy shit I loved that I’m a fucking geyser omigodwhoami.”

• 17 Jun 2013
• 38

hellbelle18 asked: how long have you and girl been together? do you think you'll always stay together, even with age? because i mean, there's always younger subs who like an experienced dom. are you ever planning on having children/do you think that's a good idea with a bdsm dynamic relationship? (don't get me wrong, I know these are incredibly personal, prying questions, but I honestly don't really know anyone in a successful marriage, least of all bdsm, and you and her give me some hope i guess)

We’ve been together on and off since college, but we’ve been married for several years. Check posts tagged “personal” for details.

I don’t answer questions about kids, sorry.

As for younger subs—trading in for next year’s model isn’t my thing. We all get old. It’s the stuff on the inside that makes a marriage last. I’m a long term relationship guy, always have been. I value the companionship, the partnership, the being known deeply the way only a long-term partner can know you. D/s is, as a friend put it, a value system, not just a kink or a game. It’s how we live. And that won’t change in forty years when she’s a bit saggy and I need boner pills.

Hehe I said boner

• 17 Jun 2013
• 57

mynaughtyself asked: Wow, 5000. I remember when it was just a few of us.

You followed me before I was cool.

(Still not cool)

• 17 Jun 2013
• 20

Good night tumblr.

Sleep tight. Be good. Stay kinky.

• 16 Jun 2013
• 32

sempreadorareme asked: Were you joking about tattoos? If not how many do you have? What do you want?

I have four and I’m working on a sleeve. And the joke is that, no matter how many I get, I’ll always want just one more.

• 16 Jun 2013
• 40

Just one more tattoo. Then I’ll feel self-expressed.

• 16 Jun 2013
• 59